One year ago, I wrote this.
Today, you start chemo. This day has been coming for a few months, and now that it’s here, I wanted you to know how blessed I am to call you my wife. You are a strong, beautiful woman. You are young, physically strong, mentally tough, and emotionally stable. If anyone could “beat” cancer on their own, it would be you.
With that said, I know that’s not where you find your strength or your identity. You are a daughter of God. Your eternal Father is the God who heals. The God who gives life and gives it abundantly. As His daughter, you are an heir to *every* single promise He makes to His children. You know this, and you place the entirety of your hope in it. As you live out being a Proverbs 31 wife, that faith and trust makes me praise you as it says. Your example will also be reason for your children to call you blessed.
Today, you start chemo to heal cancer, but you are already eternally restored to the fullness of God as His chosen, called, and reborn daughter. Continue to find your hope in Him, and know that your husband loves you above everything this world has to offer.
Today, you finish chemo. It’s been a year of suffering. You battled fevers, headaches, and nausea almost non-stop. You lost your hair. You fought infections caused by the removal of all your lymph nodes in your leg. You suffered mentally, physically, and emotionally. You bore more than many people will ever know.
As your husband, I’ve watched you suffer through this year with sadness, frustration, and helplessness. But, those feelings are *far* outweighed by the pride and joy I take in my beautiful bride. You have refused to let cancer steal your joy. When everything was being taken away from you, you put your hope and trust in the One who remains faithful in *all* things. You have lifted the name of Jesus over and over. You have made this battle about God’s unfailing grace and mercy to sustain rather than your own strength.
As a wife, you have been amazing. You have supported me unconditionally during a career change. You have encouraged me in my role as husband and father. You continue to make me laugh with your craziness, and you impress me constantly with your devotion to our relationship at a time when you could justifiably be completely selfish. You even got me a dog because you knew how much I wanted one. I remain blessed to call you my wife.
As a mother, you are beyond compare. You have kept cancer from affecting our children in all but the smallest ways. You have focused on them every day. In this last year, Connor has excelled in karate. Bryce learned to swim and passed the official swim test. Alexis began talking and has turned into the girliest of girls. They have experienced movie nights with Mom, been to the beach several times, hung out with their friends, built amazing forts, and simply enjoyed childhood. Your have provided a wonderful home life for them in an extreme situation, and they also remain blessed to call you their mother.
As you begin the post-chemo phase, I want to remind you again of how proud I am of you. I could not ask for a better woman as my wife. You are beautiful, strong, inspiring, compassionate, forgiving, understanding, and hilarious. More importantly, you are faithfully honoring your Heavenly Father through this journey. One day, you will have the unrivaled pleasure to hear Him say, “Well done, good and faithful servant.”